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E-Quipped to…Survive the Silly Season – It’s All Relative!
The sudden realisation that the end-of-year madness is here again can be quite overwhelming. You still have work deadlines to meet, office parties to survive, shopping to do… On top of all this, many of us will have the extra responsibility of dealing with The Family Visit.
Spending time under one roof with extended family, at what is arguably the busiest time of the year, is certain to cause a little stress and anxiety. Trying to cope and still maintain an air of festive spirit can defeat even the most determined optimist.
But there is hope! You CAN survive a Silly Season with the rellies – and here’s how:
Coping with Conflict
Conflict in itself is not always a bad thing – it can clear the air, open up communication channels and make other people aware of your needs and wants. The secret lies in how you handle it.
The Teddy Bear (smoothing) – Give up your own goals to “keep the peace.” Use when a family member feels strongly about something and you could not care less.
The Tortoise (withdrawing) - Avoid the person and the issue. If a situation is out of control – for example, if a family member becomes verbally and/or physically aggressive - then withdrawing is the most appropriate strategy.
The Shark (forcing) – If you’ve spent ages preparing Christmas lunch and you want everyone to come to the table, but they are all busy swimming or watching TV, what you want has to take priority.
Be forceful. It’s OK sometimes! Be sure to be assertive, not aggressive - there is a big difference!
The Fox (compromising) – If you want everyone to spend time together as a family but others want to split up and do different things, work out a compromise that gives everyone a bit of what they want.
The Owl (negotiating) - Create win-win situations – get this right and your family will love you even more than they do already!
Read more about conflict resolution in my article Coping With Conflict
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As a host, it’s natural to want to meet everyone’s needs. Sometimes, however, this will simply be impossible. This is when a few simple assertiveness techniques work wonders!
You have a right to say no to something which feels uncomfortable, or which you simply cannot do. Here’s how:
Read more about becoming more assertive in my article Attention on Assertiveness.
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